If you are a parent, it is inevitable that you have–at some point in time–yelled at your child. It’s actually quite common for parents to respond to a child’s unwanted behavior negatively. If your parents were yellers–the likelihood of you inheriting the yelling trait is tripled.
Most of us are aware that screaming at kids is bad and most of us would love to stop–but kids can really push and push and PUSH until you find yourself hollering at the top of your lungs in frustration. You then feel guilty, drained and a bit frustrated once the moment has passed. Successful parenting does not involve yelling.
So how do we stop?
It is important to understand that successful parenting focuses on providing long-term solutions versus short term fixes. Yelling only yields short term results. Here are a few additional reasons you may want to rethink yelling:
- Yelling teaches your child that you are only serious when you raise your voice.
- Yelling escalates the child and incites the fight (they begin yelling as well and a shouting match ensues) or flight (they withdraw) response in your child.
- Yelling at your child teaches them to yell when they are angry or frustrated
Here’s how to stop yelling and become a more mindful parent: read more